Black Tie Optional, Explained, Simply

The dress code that confuses everyone.

One of the most common questions I get is this:

“What does black tie optional actually mean?”

It sounds flexible. Casual, even. But in practice, it’s one of the most misunderstood dress codes.

So let’s decode it. And I am going to do it quickly, simply.

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Black tie optional means you should still dress for a black-tie event — just with a little more range.

For women, this usually looks like:

• A floor-length gown or

• An elegant midi or formal cocktail dress that feels elevated

  
  

What it does not mean (even though many interpret it this way):

• A casual dress

• A work event outfit

• Something you’d wear to a standard dinner party

  
  

When in doubt, aim closer to black tie than cocktail. You will never regret being slightly overdressed at a formal event - but you may regret being underdressed.

Here’s a simple Gala Girl rule of thumb:

If your dress would look out of place next to a tuxedo, it’s probably too casual.

Accessories matter here, too. A more understated dress can absolutely work if it’s paired with thoughtful styling - elegant shoes, evening jewelry, and intentional hair and makeup.

And one more thing people don’t talk about enough:

Confidence comes from preparation.

When you know you’ve interpreted the dress code correctly, you stop second-guessing yourself. You walk into the room calmer. More present. More comfortable.

That’s always the goal.

In future issues, I’ll break down:

• Black tie vs. formal vs. creative black tie

• What to wear to museum galas vs. charity dinners

• How to choose between a gown and a cocktail dress

  
  

If you have a specific event coming up and you’re unsure what the dress code really means, reply to this email and tell me:

• The event type

• The dress code

• The city

  
  

I read every message.

Warmly,

Edie Ellis

The Gala Girl